Lived happily ever after......??????
I think we all suffer from it - the "live happily ever after" syndrome.
You know - the perfect man, or perfect woman - when she/he comes into my life, I shall live happily ever after.
The perfect job - when I get it, everything in my life will be perfect after.
The perfect car - All I want is a Ferrari, and I will be happy eternally.
The Perfect House - If only I had that place, my life would be fulfilled.
Funny, isn't it - this so-called perfection! What we are really seeking for seems to be some kind of closure, some end to it all, where there will be no more pain, and emotion, and conflict, and struggle, and effort.
If that's what you want, go become an opium addict!
Why do we delude ourselves? Where in hell did this fairy-tale dream originate from? And it is propagated in everything around us - the stories, the books, the movies, the advertising (this soap shall make you eternally beautiful, this refrigerator is the culmination of all in your life!). Even in all the advice we receive from our parents, teachers and peers.
This political system will make life perfect for all who subscribe to it - Democracy, Communism, Dictatorship, Anarchy, Nihilism.
This educational system will produce enlightened souls - Montessori, Experiential Learning, Rote Learning, Drills, Vocational Training, Beating with a cane, etc.
This spiritual system will fix everything: Transcendental Meditation, Yoga, Swiss Spas, Ayurveda, Kerala Massage, Marijuana, Blow, Celibacy, Trappism, Cults, etc.
Why?
Why do we insist on propagating this myth? For me life is about the unpredictability, about waking up every single day ready for the fact that everything might have changed. Ready to discard what was yesterday. Snakes moult, and I think that's wonderful - to physically undergo a personality transformation every once in a while. Humans moult too - it just happens inside our minds. The only reason it hurts is that we fight it.
Haven't you ever experienced a period when you needed to be quiet and alone, in your shell, cut-off from the world - and then you emerge from that feeling different. Why be scared? It's only natural...
This is the greatest, ultimate freedom, the greatest joy, the greatest thrill - the choice to be different every single day - to lead many lives, many existences, many visions, many dreams, many loves, many professions, many worlds - all in a single lifetime. Reincarnation is here, it's now - not tomorrow. This is our chance for rebirth, for a complete transformation.
Not an addiction to things.
Or ideas.
Not in looking for the source of your happiness and contentment in anything outside yourself.
But in yourself...
Isn't that what all the religions say - that true happiness lies within. Hinduism says that all the cosmos lies inside every tiny particle of yourself. Quantum Mechanics says pretty much the same thing!
"I am large. I contain multitudes." (Walt Whitman - for those unfamiliar with his work)
The world is everything that is in it - pleasure, pain, joy, hatred, happiness, suffering, food, drink, love, sex, walks, skies, clouds, oceans, rivers, streams, trees, stones, rocks.
Why cast your eyes on any one as a source of salvation?
For the answer lies is seeing everything as part of the great cosmic dance of existence, of which you are inextricably part.
There are no answers.
There aren't even any questions.
There's only what your mind decides to make of it all - day by unescapable day.
Take joy in it, revel in it, seize life by plunging your hands deep into it's marrow, by immersing yourself completely into every act that defines your existence that moment, that day!
Live. Be free. See. Feel. Be.
And forget about fairy tale endings. They are only momentary.
I think we all suffer from it - the "live happily ever after" syndrome.
You know - the perfect man, or perfect woman - when she/he comes into my life, I shall live happily ever after.
The perfect job - when I get it, everything in my life will be perfect after.
The perfect car - All I want is a Ferrari, and I will be happy eternally.
The Perfect House - If only I had that place, my life would be fulfilled.
Funny, isn't it - this so-called perfection! What we are really seeking for seems to be some kind of closure, some end to it all, where there will be no more pain, and emotion, and conflict, and struggle, and effort.
If that's what you want, go become an opium addict!
Why do we delude ourselves? Where in hell did this fairy-tale dream originate from? And it is propagated in everything around us - the stories, the books, the movies, the advertising (this soap shall make you eternally beautiful, this refrigerator is the culmination of all in your life!). Even in all the advice we receive from our parents, teachers and peers.
This political system will make life perfect for all who subscribe to it - Democracy, Communism, Dictatorship, Anarchy, Nihilism.
This educational system will produce enlightened souls - Montessori, Experiential Learning, Rote Learning, Drills, Vocational Training, Beating with a cane, etc.
This spiritual system will fix everything: Transcendental Meditation, Yoga, Swiss Spas, Ayurveda, Kerala Massage, Marijuana, Blow, Celibacy, Trappism, Cults, etc.
Why?
Why do we insist on propagating this myth? For me life is about the unpredictability, about waking up every single day ready for the fact that everything might have changed. Ready to discard what was yesterday. Snakes moult, and I think that's wonderful - to physically undergo a personality transformation every once in a while. Humans moult too - it just happens inside our minds. The only reason it hurts is that we fight it.
Haven't you ever experienced a period when you needed to be quiet and alone, in your shell, cut-off from the world - and then you emerge from that feeling different. Why be scared? It's only natural...
This is the greatest, ultimate freedom, the greatest joy, the greatest thrill - the choice to be different every single day - to lead many lives, many existences, many visions, many dreams, many loves, many professions, many worlds - all in a single lifetime. Reincarnation is here, it's now - not tomorrow. This is our chance for rebirth, for a complete transformation.
Not an addiction to things.
Or ideas.
Not in looking for the source of your happiness and contentment in anything outside yourself.
But in yourself...
Isn't that what all the religions say - that true happiness lies within. Hinduism says that all the cosmos lies inside every tiny particle of yourself. Quantum Mechanics says pretty much the same thing!
"I am large. I contain multitudes." (Walt Whitman - for those unfamiliar with his work)
The world is everything that is in it - pleasure, pain, joy, hatred, happiness, suffering, food, drink, love, sex, walks, skies, clouds, oceans, rivers, streams, trees, stones, rocks.
Why cast your eyes on any one as a source of salvation?
For the answer lies is seeing everything as part of the great cosmic dance of existence, of which you are inextricably part.
There are no answers.
There aren't even any questions.
There's only what your mind decides to make of it all - day by unescapable day.
Take joy in it, revel in it, seize life by plunging your hands deep into it's marrow, by immersing yourself completely into every act that defines your existence that moment, that day!
Live. Be free. See. Feel. Be.
And forget about fairy tale endings. They are only momentary.
4 comments:
wow deesh, what an eye-opening post! I have always beleived in the same fairy tale endings too...and now that i read ur post, i am gonna start thinking about it, and maybe, even change my perspective on life. anyways, looking forward to more posts from you!
hey deesh....I am gonna quote a para frm ur entry in my blog. i hope u wont mind!
Hey Mixdbrew. I do not disagree with you. Dreams and hopes are very much a part of the existence that we need to revel in. What I have a problem with is that we ignore new dreams, new hopes and new experiences in order to hang on to old ones that are already dead. What I have a problem with is that we base the fulfillment of our dreams on external forces - a person or a thing. Not on ourselves.
I believe we need to trust in our own selves more, not propagate our fear and insecurity by placing the power for our own life in other things or people. I think we use dreams and hopes as an excuse, not a celebration.
THat is the quest - to constantly moult, to change, to not be stuck to one dream or hope - to celebrate the differences in our own selves as we should celebrate the differences in others...
Mail me with more thoughts if you like.
Actually.. Its pretty thought provoking..however.. I cannot agree with you. Social beings aren't cut out to be floaters... we are not isolated dots..we got to connect the dots.
We all look for a purpose in life. Snakes can moult sure, but we live in the same skin day after that..therefore the need for a perfect skin, and similarly, a perfect mind, the perfect learning,.. Change doesn't mean living in constant amnesia!
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